Erotic Journal Challenge: What’s Missing From Your Romantic Life?

What is missing from your intimate, romantic, and/or sexual life?

First, OW. What’s missing? Intimacy, romance, and partnered sex. Am I a romantic? Do I enjoy intimacy? Yes.

Just reading this made me feel like I was stabbed.

I feel so attacked.

Let me see if I can pick the pieces up and give an answer.

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Intimacy is Important

Yes, I looked up the definition to give me a better look at what’s missing from my life. I couldn’t help myself.

I’m missing a couple of these. Currently, the guy I’m talking to is busy and I don’t know if he’ll be making time for in-person togetherness anytime soon.

I figure I do like him, but I do also want to be with someone who actually enjoys, and shows that they enjoy, spending time with me. It doesn’t have to be sexual. It doesn’t have to be expensive or extravagant. I haven’t decided what I want to do at this very moment, but I do have a time limit in mind.

I want to steal… borrow the shirt off your back because it smells like you.

Intimacy and romance go hand in hand. I want the corny jokes, the sarcasm. I want to hold hands and I want to put my deathly cold hands under your shirt.

Be a Romantic, Romance isn’t Dead

I… Wow. Fanciful, impractical, unrealistic. Yeah, those are probably exactly what I want in a partner. Not.

This definition of the word romantic is ridiculous. Romance isn’t dead, it’s just changed over the past couple of decades thanks to … oh, I don’t know, the fact that women are now capable of voting and owning land and having bank accounts.

Romance to me is doing the little things and the big things. It’s doing things apart and coming back excited to see each other. It’s enjoying the same and different things. Able to be together, and separate, living the best life.

I crack jokes that I don’t want a puppy up my ass. If I wanted someone to follow me around everywhere so close that I trip over them, I would literally get a puppy.

I want a capable adult human who has emotions but doesn’t wallow in them when it’s a rough week. I want someone to do the one thing that will lighten my load. And someone who isn’t afraid to ask me for help when they need it. I’m pretty fucking capable and a lot stronger than I look, both physically and emotionally.

Being a romantic person isn’t frivolous. If you learn the things your partner truly enjoys, and do those things, it’s a blessing.

One of my favorite things to tell people is that their first mistake is underestimating me, and their second is standing too close.

Sexual Life Shenanigans

I’ll spare you a definition for this one. Hah.

Currently? Sex. With everything going on, differing schedules, migraines, other physical issues, it’s been difficult getting to see my hot guy again. But that’s not a deal breaker at the moment. We’ll see how things pan out. Until then, I can always sex myself up.

I feel like if he makes an effort, there will be more intimacy, more romance, and definitely more sex happening in both our lives.

If he doesn’t make the effort, that’s on him.

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